We all have those days where it feels like everything in your path is going wrong and the whole world is plotting against you. You can’t wait to hit the pillow and put it all behind you. We live our lives so seriously and often forgot what it’s like just to be in the moment. To be able to laugh at our own expense when things aren’t going according to plan.
As I am in the process of decorating my home, I can account for several DIY disasters. Where in hindsight I should have enlisted the help of a professional. Just recently I cleaned my wood countertops with a baking soda solution. To my surprise this did not end well. (Note to self: Think twice before opting to trust a quick fix from Wiki-how). To many, this may seem to be common sense. But my lack of knowledge caused me to fall into the trap of the internet. I beat myself up for days after, ruminating in the past which knowingly wasn’t going to change a thing. Thankfully I can laugh about this now, but it has taken some time to get here.
Part of being human is that we make mistakes.
While laughing at yourself might not change the circumstance it can shape the experience in a new light. Yes, it can feel a little uncomfortable at first but is a skill that will only get better with practice. It will teach you to become more resilient and better able to handle life when things don’t go your way. Although showing your emotions in this way might not be appropriate in more extreme situations. It sure does help lighten the load for whatever you are going through. I’m certain for many of us we would much rather choose to laugh through our pain than to cry through it.
By taking this stance you are putting yourself in control of the situation. Creating psychological distance from any judgment, resentment, or self-criticism. It’s proof that you are accepting of your mistakes and enables you to view them from an outsider’s perspective. Sometimes we forget that whatever we are facing will not last forever. No matter how difficult things might seem in the moment. Embracing our flaws and imperfections in this way provides an opportunity to practice self-love and acceptance.
Taking a more light-hearted approach can also allow for more effective problem-solving. By exerting your capacity to find humour in everyday events you are not getting yourself caught up in the situation. You are freeing yourself and permitting your mind space to process what’s happened. You might not have the answer now but having faith that the solution will come in time is much more liberating.
The improvements it can have towards the quality of your physical and mental health are endless.
It helps reduce the risk of heart disease as well as alleviating stress and reducing tension in the body. When we are more relaxed it permits us to see things clearer and gain sight of what’s important in life. Chances are when we look back, we will be able to see that the event we were so wrapped up in had little significance. Laughing is also proven to lower depression which can otherwise feel like a constant battle against yourself. Seeking more joy can help to release the l extra baggage you often feel weighed down by.
There is no doubt that by being able to laugh when we do something silly, it makes us more relatable. Society has made us feel that we should be embarrassed and ashamed by our errors and avoid facing them at all costs. Much like when we fall over or trip in public it is seen as ultimate humiliation. Instead by taking a moment to laugh and dust yourself off you bring out a more playful nature. If we can show others our flaws its more likely they will be more relaxed in our company and be able to form closer bonds as a result. Hopefully in turn it will encourage others to lower their guard as well.
Think of your favourite celebrity, more than likely they have been in the limelight for an extended period of time. And have faced a substantial amount of criticism and backlash for their mistakes. One of the reasons they have been able to withstand a long-lasting career in the public eye is through being able to laugh at themselves despite all the social critique and condemnation they face. Being able to poke fun at themselves shows they are human and don’t take life too seriously. I love watching Jimmy Kimmel’s Mean Tweets for this.
When laughing at yourself you are not putting yourself down but rather able to find amusement out of your own discomfort. Bad things happen in life whether you accept them or not. You can determine your response to any situation so why not laugh when the going gets tough. Regardless of our own perceptions about ourselves, we can all afford to be a bit more playful.
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