Self-love can be defined in multiple ways. Essentially it is the ability to find peace and love yourself for who you are. Having high regard and putting yourself first can be a challenge in today’s society. We are told that in order to live a meaningful life we should be of service to others and put the needs of others before our own. But to live a truly fulfilling life, we must spend time building ourselves up and filling ourselves with love that we can then share with the world around us. I think for a lot of people, we know the need for self-love is there but we don’t know how to go about doing it. If you want to know how to work on loving yourself more, then keep reading for some tips you could try out.
Get To Know Your Likes & Dislikes
Quite simply, the more you put yourself out there and try new things the clearer your likes and dislikes will become. Life is too short to hold back from doing things for fear of failure or what others might think. Travel places, go on dates, do things that are maybe a bit outside your comfort zone and you will gain a better understanding of yourself in the process. Part of this also requires spending time alone. Of which many people seem to be afraid of. It can seem scary, but having time to process your thoughts elevates your ability to listen to your mind and learn to trust your intuition.
Be Kind To Yourself
When those we love the most are going through hard times we treat them with love, kindness, compassion, patience etc. So why is it any different for us? We can be our own worst critics but that only leads us down a rabbit hole of self-loathing and pity. Choose to forgive yourself for anything in the past that didn’t work out as you had planned. Accept where you are now and focus on what you have and life will feel a lot less heavy. Since I have started actively listening to my mind and body I have found I am more present and receptive to others. If you are struggling to feel good about yourself you could try some self-love affirmations to cultivate a more positive mindset.
Give Yourself Compliments
When you have little self-confidence, you don’t see yourself in the same way as those around you. You fail to see all of your greatness and what you have to bring to the table. I have found it beneficial to make a list of the things I like about myself. It might be a struggle even to name just a few things, but you can start focusing your energy on those things a whole lot more. I truly believe the more you respect and show love for yourself the more you will receive love in return. Its often thought that once you are confident in yourself and who you are as a person you are more likely to attract the right people into your life. I have recently started a 21-Day Love Meditation to manifest more love into my life.. so I’m interested to see how that turns out!
Spend Time With The People That Make You Feel Good
Who you spend your time with is such a clear indicator of how you value yourself. Although we might not realise it, we are very much influenced by the people we spend the most time with. It’s not easy to be around positive people all of the time, especially when it comes to family and friends you have known for years. But if someone is putting you down or zapping you of all your energy it might be time to remove yourself from them slightly. Pay attention to the great experiences and who you have those with and surround yourself with those people more. For if you have positive and uplifting friends, you are more likely to feel that same love for yourself in return.
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Self-love is a journey. If you want to live a happy fulfilling life you should dedicate significant time to loving yourself more. After all, the relationship you have with yourself is the most important one of all.
How do you view your relationship with yourself? Do you struggle with loving yourself?