Do you often find that you are beating yourself up and punishing yourself when things don’t go to plan? You are not alone. Have you noticed how you start your morning gives a projection of how the rest of your day will turn out? Starting out on the wrong foot can often have a substantially negative impact on the rest of your day. On the contrary, if you start your day with positive self-talk and love for yourself certainly the world can feel a lot more manageable and a forgiving place to be.
I have found myself in a trap of negativity from time to time. But being able to identify those traps has allowed me to see how impactful positive self-talk really is.
Positive self-talk is an extremely underrated tool in helping you to navigate through life. Before practicing any affirmations it can be helpful to reflect on the negative ideas you have about yourself and others and working towards setting them free.
In my personal experience, I have used journaling to reflect on the truth of these ideologies and what purpose they are serving in my life. Learning they are only creating obstacles in your life and preventing you from reaching your highest self is extremely liberating. Here are some ways positive self-talk can help change your life for the better.
Helps to control stress
If you have confidence in yourself and your abilities, you are much less likely to allow stress to take over. When dealing with difficult situations regular use of positive self-talk has been proven to establish a higher level of self-assurance. Approaching a situation with ‘I can’ or ‘I could’ is much more reaffirming to the mind than telling yourself you are unable or incapable of doing something.
Try to think back to a time when you overcame what seemed impossible. And use that as a stepping-stone for facing future hardships. For me, after losing a significant amount of weight last year I thought I would never be healthy again but I remind myself how far I have come and how important it is to give my body the love and respect it deserves.
Boosts your confidence and self-worth
Positive self-talk helps to reframe your mind into a more confident narrative. It helps to reaffirm the belief that you can achieve anything you desire. Think about what your goals and dreams are for your life. Is your mental state creating a hindrance or permitting you to move further towards them. When you are secure in yourself it alerts those around you that you are capable and able to deal with anything life throws at you.
To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romanceOscar Wilde
Helps you prepare for difficult situations in the future
The deeper you go into your practice and the more you are aware and in control of your thoughts, the easier life will become. That’s not to say that you will not face challenges but your perspective on how you approach them will be different. You use your energy in more practical ways and focus on the things you have power over. Self-love will allow you to discover joy and gratitude in any situation.
Enables you to visualise a life of success
Are there things that you dream of that seem so far away from reach? There are countless studies that prove how your mind doesn’t know the difference between if something is happening in reality or part of your imagination. Whether things that happen in our life are a success or failure simply comes down to mindset. Having a vision of what it is you want to achieve will help your mind figure out a way of how it’s going to get there and make it happen.
I have been practicing affirmations during mainly through guided meditation. Having an external source when you don’t feel strong enough to lean on yourself can be really helpful. My current go-to is Marissa Peer, she is a world-leading therapist and a true force of nature. You can find her 10-minute self-love meditation here.
I have also been leaving post-its around my home with some key affirmations. It’s surprising how reactive your mind can be to such a simple tool and helps keep up good energy throughout the day. If you are interested in other tools to help keep your mental health in check you can find them in a recent post of mine here.
Before I round up, I wanted to share some of my favourite affirmations that I have been repeating daily and found to be invaluable.
Affective affirmations for positive self-talk
- I can achieve anything I set my mind to
- There are no limitations to what I can achieve
- I am proud of myself simply for trying as it is better than doing nothing at all
- I am better than the person I was yesterday
- The more love I have for myself the more I can give to others
- I am forgiving to myself when i make a mistake
- There is a lesson to learn from everything even if something doesn’t go my way
I would love to hear how you practice self-love and what some of your favourite affirmations are?